5 Phrases The Happiest Couples Say

There are a few phrases that, when sincerely used, help strengthen and grow relationships and marriages. These simple phrases may not seem like much, but they truly lead to a better life for both you and your significant other. I recently came across this article that discusses five phrases the happiest couples use to stay crazy in love, listed below:

1) We Can Work It Out

Numerous studies have shown a positive correlation between marital happiness and how often couples refer to themselves as “we.” This probably does not come as much of a surprise, because seeing yourself as a team makes you more likely to cope well with the everyday problems that couple will inevitably encounter. This team spirit leads to more cooperation, fewer disagreements, and resolving issues more quickly.

2) I Hear What You Are Saying

Humans long to be heard and understood. This idea is especially important when it comes to relationships. When one does not feel heard or understood, they tend to not feel important, valued, or connected to the other party. This does not mean that you need to agree with what the other person is saying. It simply means that you at least listen to your partner with an open mind. When you listen to what your significant other is saying, they are more likely to share their innermost thoughts and feelings, leading to a stronger bond.

3) I’m Crazy About You

All too often, couples keep their nice thoughts about their significant other to themselves. You forget how important it is for your significant others to hear about how smart, charming, attractive, or important they are to you. These constant reminders from the person that matters most keeps spirits high and his connection to you closer than ever.

4) Wow, Thank You!

Couples in the strongest and happiest relationships make it a point to acknowledge all the little things that their significant other does to make their life easier or better. This includes anything from making your favorite meal to picking up dry cleaning. Adding “Wow!” to the phrase only helps to emphasis these feelings of importance and appreciation.

5) Go For It!
Research shows that couples who serve as cheerleaders for one another are not only more optimistic about life and love, but are far more likely to live happily ever after. A significant other that is there to support you with your decisions and push you to take on life’s challenges is incredibly valuable.

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The Three Kinds of Fights

When you and your spouse are fighting, it’s been said that Fighting coupleyou should “fight naked”.  The idea behind this is twofold: it’s very hard to stay angry when you’re both stark naked, but being emotionally and utterly transparent in your communication will lead to a better conflict resolution.  In marriage, you won’t always agree, which means that you’re going to end up fighting.  It’s inevitable, so you shouldn’t ask yourself “what if we fight?” but rather “how can we fight in a healthy way?”.  I recently came across an article that discusses three different types of marital fights, and how you can seek reconciliation, listed below:

Annoyances and bickering: When you’re living with another human, you’ll end up getting annoyed sometimes.  It might have to do with how you brush your teeth, whether or not you clean up after yourself, whether or not you leave the lights on, the list is endless.  However, these annoyances are never deal-breakers; they can always be worked out or around.  If it is a problem, then voice your concerns in a constructive way and time.  If you or your spouse do end up using an inflammatory stone, then try to hear what they’re saying before how they’re saying it.

Fights that stem from deep hurts: These are the fights where the heart is involved.  There are various types of scenarios that can illustrate this type of fight, such as spending habits, family frustrations or being ignored.  However, as the author of the article pointed out, each time the fight seems to come from “bottling it up”.  When those fights do occur, you need to seek reconciliation as opposed to a way to vent your hurt.  Make sure you talk; you both need to commit to talking it through, and look to hear what isn’t being said.  Ultimately, don’t let pride drive you further apart, and admit if you’re wrong.

Core issue disagreements: Not every couple shares the same values.  Some of them can be based on political or religious persuasion, but they can be about plenty of other things: disciplining the kids, strategies for saving money and career choices, among other things.  If you’re dealing with such an issue, seek agreement and understanding.  If you’re still at an impasse, then you’ll need to compromise.  When you do compromise, don’t let it poison your marriage by fostering long-term bitterness and anger.